Today's Clothes

Have you attempted to go clothes shopping with a teenager or a “tweenager” (those between the age 10 and 13)? It can be frustrating, especially when you look at the fashions today.

Though more modest than the previous generation, today’s youth still struggle with fashion decisions that are honorable to God. Clothing choices usually go hand-in-hand with a young person’s pursuit of identity formation.

I suggest finding an opportunity to talk with your teenager or tweenager about clothing choices sometime and somewhere else other than actually shopping for clothes. One way to engage them is to do a good family Bible study together on the issue.

Read 1 Peter 3:3-4 and 1 Corinthians 10:31. Peter tells us that we should not be concerned about the outward beauty, instead, with the beauty that comes from within.” Corinthians encourages us to do everything for the glory of God.

Read these verses aloud with your family, then throw out the following discussion questions: What types of clothes promote an unhealthy view of sexuality? Explain.

What is modesty? Is modesty important? Why or why not?

Are there times when an item of clothing can be appropriate while at other times it’s inappropriate? Explain. How can you tell the difference?

What statements are young people making with the clothes they wear today?

What do those styles say about the people who wear them?

What do your clothes say about you? Is that the statement you want to make? Why or why not?

Christmas and St. Nicholas

As Christmas approaches, expectant children are making lists of presents that they hope to receive. Advent is an appropriate time to teach them about the life of St. Nicholas and to remind them, "It is more blessed to give than to receive" (Acts 20:35)

St. Nicholas was born during the third century in the region near Myra, a village that is located within modern-day Turkey (Pastor Lewis visited this place when he was a youth). His wealthy parents raised him to be a devout Christian. St. Nicholas obeyed Jesus' words to "sell what you own and give the money to the poor." He used his whole inheritance to help the needy, the sick, and the suffering. The church recognized his total dedication to God and declared him Bishop of Myra while he was still a young man. He was known across the region for his generosity to people in need, for his love of children, and for his concern for sailors. You can find many legends about his life on the Internet and in library books. In many places in the world, St. Nicholas' Feast Day is held on December 6. This special day celebrates the stories of his generosity and goodness. The life of St. Nicholas has much to teach us.

During the Advent and Christmas seasons, encourage children and youth to think like St. Nicholas, by focusing on what they can give, not on what they can receive. In addition to money, a person can give time, talents, and possessions to help others. Brainstorm with the children and youth ways in which they can give their time, talents, and possessions to others. Here are some suggestions:

- Help an elderly neighbor address Christmas cards or wrap presents.
- Provide childcare for the children of a single parent, allowing the parent time to purchase gifts.
- Help a neighbor with some seasonal yard work.
- Assist a family who has a parent overseas serving in the military.
- Be a friend to a new student at school.

Help them to see the needs of those around them and guide them in choosing a need that they can meet.

You can learn more about St. Nicholas by going to one of the links found on the rightside of this page.